HATE

While having a conversation with a person I heard them speak about a family member and the person said "I hate them, no really, I just hate them".  I don't know if the person really meant that they really did hate their family members or if they were just really angry at them for one reason or another.  

 Hate is defined as; feeling intense or passionate dislike for (someone) or intense or passionate dislike, of course, a person can utilize the word as a verb or a noun.  

I was taught the word hate is a very strong word and shouldn't be used.  A person may "hate" what another person has done or hate a certain feeling they may get about certain food.  "I hate that they acted that way" "I hate anchovies".  However, stating you "hate" another person is a very strong word that is utilized very rarely.  I believe that a person should never utilize the word "hate" when speaking about a family member.    Of course, there are good reasons for maybe hating a family member such as maybe rape or murder.   

I cannot stand some people and have a very dislike for them and they make me cringe thinking about them and I automatically make a disgusting face when I think about them but I don't know if I use the word "hate" because I don't personally know them.  I have had a boss that automatically makes my face look disgusted even thinking about him and what he did.😤

One of my siblings has said they hate my Mom and she was dead.  I basically knew she was not because someone from the police department or morgue or someone who deals with the dead would contact me because my Mom has always had my information somewhere on her person.  I was so upset that he would say something like that out of the blue.  Why would a person say "she's dead, I know she's dead"?  It is just sickening to me.  Was it what he was wishing?  And even though I know a word about her death would get to me, I did call the police departments and the morgues to find out if there was anyone with the name Susie or Sonny Green found dead.  She is still alive.  

When telling a family member that story, a different person says something like "I wish she was dead, I wouldn't give a damn if she was found rotting in a dumpster".  Now, hearing that got me.  I didn't say anything because I didn't want to ruin the day but how could someone, a person of God say something like that?  Even when I think about what was said that day, today it still chokes me up when I think about it.

You know, all of the pain she has put me, my siblings, and my family through time and time again, I have never said, "I hate my Mom" or said "I hate you" to her after all that she has done to me, my siblings, or my family throughout the years.   I told her I was done with her, and I can't take her no more especially when her words got really mean.  I don't hate her.  I love my Mom.